Maintaining a civil relationship with your ex can be challenging at times.
If you were to ask me a month ago how I get along with my ex-husband, I would have said “all and all, I think we do pretty well”.
We talk, we have coffee every so often to go over the kids schedules, I may have even gone as far as describing it as a “well-oiled machine”….
Until 2 weeks ago.
I had a hard time keeping this to 1000 words….
What took place, my reaction, I could have gone on and on…
One feeling I didn’t share in this post was how I assumed that since we were getting along well, he wouldn’t speak poorly of me – I had my guard down – big mistake.
Another assumption I had was that there’s this unspoken “nuetral ground” that ex’es need to respect:
School functions and sporting functions where both parents need to interact with other parents…. Divorced couples should respect eachother, especially in those spaces…
And well …. I assumed wrong, Again.
Let’s face it, no one ever wants to know that someone is saying bad things about them – it hurts. And on the rare occasion that we get to overhear exactly whats being said about you, or in my case, accidentally hear a recording of what’s being said about me, it can hurt even more.
Here’s what I learned from all of this..